Life goals, squad goals, insta goals.
That’s a whole lotta goals to contend with!
Portraying our best life to the wider world can be exhausting. It’s keeping up with the Joneses on a monumental scale. If, like me, you enjoy posting pretty pictures from time to time, but you’re not sure that you can aspire to being a perfect version of yourself all the time, then the contented middle-ground is for you!
In the middle ground, we can take comfort in knowing that the most public and flashy goals are often materialistic; precisely staged images of opulent lunches out, perfect walks in the countryside, and carefully curated outfits. We middle-grounders like and appreciate these things from time to time. But we know our limits. Whilst it’s natural to want to feel a sense of pride in our achievements and enjoy sharing them with others, there’s a fine line between celebrating our successes, and simply showing off (at least in our eyes).
Our personal or private goals tend to be the ones which really matter to us. Will I get that promotion at work? – you know, the one which I submitted the application for in secret. That way, if I don’t get it, I won’t have to suffer the shame of telling the rest of my team about my failure. Or, will you manage to get your toddler to sleep through the night for the first time in over 7 months? – saving your sanity… and potentially your relationship. Invariably, it is these basic-but-all-consuming life hurdles which provide us middle-grounders with the most joy.
When we achieve big, it takes us by surprise. We’re unsure how to react and either gloss over the success or over-praise someone or something else for their small part in our triumph. The success seems too good to be true… perhaps if we say it out loud then we’ll discover that it isn’t really as great an accomplishment as we had first thought? For this very reason I tend not to share my most satisfying achievements on public forums. These are the ones that have taken blood, sweat and probably a substantial amount of tears behind the scenes in order to attain. My little self-esteem bubble would struggle to take the hit if I discovered my efforts hadn’t really been worth it after all. Instead, I’ll take silent comfort in knowing that i’m slowly moving forward and doing the things I hope to accomplish. One step at a time.
I didn’t set any personal goals for this year. However, looking back, there have been both highs and lows – as is to be expected. One positive was that I started this blog. Something which I had had been planning to do for over 2 years, but never quite mustered the courage. Here, 5 months in, I’m still sticking with it, trying to put down my thoughts into type each week or so. Whether or not anyone but myself reads it doesn’t bother me too much. I’ll just continue to be me.
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